Serving – I Will Go: When Help Isn’t Wanted

One of the hardest things we may experience while serving others is when they don’t want to be served. Last week we addressed the “Savior Complex” when serving, which is when someone takes on an unhealthy level of desire to fix situations or people. When coming from this mindset, bitterness can creep in if someone doesn’t want to be “fixed.”

Sometimes people aren’t in a place where they are ready to make a change, accept ownership of their situation, or even feel they need any assistance. For some, they truly may not need the help, we simply assume they do. Others may really need assistance, but not be ready to accept it. This is okay. We cannot take on other people’s problems to the extent that we become bitter if they choose not to engage in a solution with us.

Moreover, we cannot become discouraged when people reject our help because we are doing it in the name of Jesus.  The teachings of Jesus weren’t easy for people to follow when he was on earth and they aren’t any easier today because they requires submission to God and his instructions. In John 6:60 we see people choosing to not follow Jesus because of this: “Therefore, when many of His disciples heard this, they said, ‘This teaching is hard! Who can accept it?’”

Another great passage about this is 2 Corinthians 4:1-5

4 Therefore, since through God’s mercy we have this ministry, we do not lose heart. 2 Rather, we have renounced secret and shameful ways; we do not use deception, nor do we distort the word of God. On the contrary, by setting forth the truth plainly we commend ourselves to everyone’s conscience in the sight of God. 3 And even if our gospel is veiled, it is veiled to those who are perishing. 4 The god of this age has blinded the minds of unbelievers, so that they cannot see the light of the gospel that displays the glory of Christ, who is the image of God. 5 For what we preach is not ourselves, but Jesus Christ as Lord, and ourselves as your servants for Jesus’ sake.

When serving we should keep presenting the Gospel message and ministering in truth and love. We do this with the understanding that some will reject us, some will accept Christ as their Savior, and some may not be ready to accept God’s truth right now. That’s okay. We serve out of obedience; the outcome of our service is in God’s hands (1 Corinthians 3:6). We will keep serving others, loving and respecting them as image bearers of God, even when they don’t want to be served.